10 Easy Steps to Start Accepting And Loving Yourself

Everyone struggles with self-love. 

Self-love is something you learn how to do as you grow up. 

However, many people try to find self-love in the wrong places. 

Instead of looking for it in themselves, they’re seeking it through other people. 

As a result, they keep demanding attention and approval from their surroundings, only to come back empty-handed.

Below is a list of few things you can do to start loving yourself the right way :

1. Stop comparing yourself to others.

Looking up to a role model who’s for you a source of inspiration to become a better person, is perfectly healthy and constructive. 

However, comparing yourself to others can be quite destructive and is a waste of the person you are. 

You don’t have to be better than anyone but your past self. So focus on yourself. 

Life isn’t a competition.

2. Don’t worry about others’ opinions.

The next step should be, not to worry about what other people think. 

People are more self-centered than they seem to be. They’re busy thinking about themselves.

3. Allow yourself to make mistakes.

Everyone makes mistakes. We’re never perfect. So, don’t let guilt eat you up and hold you from loving yourself. 

After all, as long as we make amends, as long as we fix our mistakes and do something good in its place, then we’re worthy enough. 

For each mistake, you make, try to fix it. If you can’t, then do something good in its place. 

Above all, be sure that there’ll be a precious lesson for you to learn, that you couldn’t have learned otherwise.

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4. Make sure that there’s more to you than looks.

Appearances shouldn’t be all there’s to your life. 

Make sure that you have more to offer to those who are good enough not to judge by looks. 

We only have so much time and energy, and if you’re going to direct most of it towards trying to impress others, there’ll be little left of your time and energy to do all the worthwhile things that should be done throughout your life. 

Minimalism can be a great way to start investing less energy and time in impressing others and direct these precious resources toward a higher purpose.

“We buy things we don't need with money we don't have to impress people we don't like.” ― Dave Ramsey

5. Have a support system.  

Even though strength should come from within, it’s still important to surround yourself with supportive relationships. 

If you can’t get rid of some toxic people, then at least distance yourself from them and allow more positive people in.

6. Challenge your limiting beliefs.

Those limiting beliefs are all the reasons you keep telling yourself as to why you’re not worthy of love, adding to that, the conditions you set for you to start loving yourself. 

The truth is, you don’t need anything more to be worthy of love, you’re already worth it.

7. Put yourself first. 

It’s not selfish to put yourself first, quite the opposite. It’s important to take care of yourself first. 

You can’t pour from an empty cup. If it’s getting too overwhelming and you need to spend some time alone, do it.

8. Express yourself.

Get into the habit of speaking your mind. From your ideas and beliefs to your taste and choices, don’t be afraid to express yourself even if it meant standing alone.

9. See your unique beauty.

Our beauty comes from the fact that we’re different and unique. But if you’re going to start trying to look like someone else, you lose your uniqueness. 

Notice the unique details about you, appreciate them and show it off with confidence.

10. Learn more about yourself.

Even though you’ve spent your whole life with yourself, you might not know yourself as well as you think you do. 

What negative thoughts are weighing you down and holding you back? what rocks your boats? and what your calling in this life could be? these and more questions can only be answered once you get to know yourself well.

The best way to do so is to start expressing your thoughts whether through journaling or telling someone who’s willing to listen. 

Also reading self-help books can be incredibly helpful in your journey to know yourself more.

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Self-love may not happen overnight. But be patient, you’re getting there slowly but surely. 

Be sure that the struggles you’re going through, are your stepping stones on your journey to become the best you.

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