8 Things To Keep In Mind If You Feel Like An Outsider
Everyone is unique. However, people usually find ways to relate to each other. Something that you might find yourself unable to do.
Different can be hard. You find yourself standing alone. Like an outsider. Below are 8 things to keep in mind if you feel like an outsider.
Society is biased toward the masse, and when you’re different from the masse, you feel rejected and oftentimes judged. People start pointing out your differences as if it makes you not good enough to be included. The truth is, as long as you’re being yourself, you’ll never be good enough for them. So quit trying to fit in.
Toxic people are everywhere, and in this life you'll meet plenty of them. The point isn't to avoid them, but to know how to deal with them, simply because you won't be able to avoid them all the time. Never seek others' approval. Convince yourself that you're good enough no matter what people think of you. Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth!
Finding yourself alone means that you’ll have to care for yourself. You won’t find people who are going to support you every day. This is why you need to support yourself and be your own cheerleader. Keep in mind that loving yourself is your job. No one can do it for you.
Be Brave. This is something you’re going to need to survive. Being different and standing out from the crowd takes lots of courage. Even if you’re afraid, do it anyway.
You’re probably an introvert even if you did know it. Welcome to our quite community. It’s not easy to fit in with others, but there will other things for you to enjoy like your creative side. You’re also a good listener and a loving person.
Don’t be hard on yourself. It’s easy to think that something is wrong with you when you feel like an outsider. And it’s only natural to work hard to fit in. the truth is, you’re unique and different and nothing is wrong with that. Direct your time and energy toward your own goals instead of trying to conform to other people’s standards. Remember that life isn’t a competition, it’s about being able to freely be yourself and live your dreams.
As an outsider, you’re a good observant. You’re not brainwashed to think and act like the masses. You think for yourself. You see and do things differently. Something that offers you a great awareness and the ability to see the big picture and not get lost in the details of everyday life.
“Being an outsider, to some extent … makes life difficult, but it also places you at an advantage as far as enlightenment is concerned. It takes you out of unconsciousness almost by force.” Eckhart Tolle (The Power of Now p. 173)
You’re not alone. It’s easy to believe that you’re the only one who doesn’t seem able to figure out how to fit in. but you’re not. So reach out for your fellows. With the internet and social media, it’s easier now than ever to do so. Surround yourself with people like you and let them be your inspiration.
If you feel like an outsider, don’t try to twist and contort yourself to squeeze into the narrow definition of normal. Embrace your differences and rejoice in your uniqueness.