When I go shopping, and I see all the beautiful clothes and jewelries, I think of how great it would be to have them, but then I'm quite sure that it can't make me any happier, if I'm looking for happiness there then, I'm looking in the wrong place.
Happiness is in the heart, it has nothing to do with your circumstances. If you're not happy, then don't blame the day, blame it on you, you decided that you don't want to be happy, first by looking for every single reason not to be like your problems, or so you think, and second by expecting your happiness in a certain kind of way, which is wrong, because happiness isn't to be known, but to be felt so it won't come from expectations.
It has never been about luxury. Money can't make you any happier, this is something I've learned, the more I buy the miserable I get, and at the other hand, the simpler I live, the brighter my life gets.
Below are some ways to help you boost your happiness that has nothing to do with acquiring or having, but all it has to do is with your actions:
1- Love yourself enough to walk away from the negativity:
Distance yourself from the negative and let your energy flow with the positive, do what you love, life isn't meant to be flawless or without problems, life is meant to be enjoyed though its struggles.
Positive things happen only to positive people, you may not be able to choose what happens to you, but you still can choose how you act and how it's going to end. It's all in your mind, give up the drama, change your mind and you'll change your life.
you choose to live your problems, or to forget about it and hold on the good.
Don't settle for drama, people don't care if you're happy or miserable, so you might as well get happy. How ironic that we want happiness yet we're enjoying the pain we create ourselves!
2- Take full responsibility of your life:
No one owes you happiness it's up to you to make yourself happy, no one is going to save you, you're the one who has to take the action on your happiness, and no one owes you anything, you've got to go out and fight for it. Happiness starts with you, not with your relationships, not with your job, not with your money, but with you.
It's unbelievable how changing mindset can change our lives, you may find yourself happy today and you feel like you own the world, you feel hopeful and strong, then the next day you feel sad, lonely and afraid of the future, it's just our minds, and it's a matter of finding somehow to keep ourselves motivated. We do need a constant motivation to start our days with and to keep reminding ourselves with how powerful a motivated mind is!
3- All that you need is an escape:
whenever you're facing a stressful situation, run away, not physically but mentally, don't stress about it, do your best and never waste your inner peace for what you can't change. Sometimes all that you need is a good book to distract you from stressing for a while. you deserve peace and happiness, stop over thinking and stressing as long as nothing is left to do.
4- Write it down:
Writing down your thoughts helps to control it, when you write down these negative thoughts you have in your mind, you'll realize how terrible they are and it's not a healthy way to think with, there you'll be able to change them! your mind is the most powerful thing you have, it's the reason why you're feeling happy or sad! everything is only as it looks like in your mind, if you're living a positive life, then it's thanks to the positive thoughts you have in your mind, so don't let it go wild with the negative ones, try to write down often your thoughts, then choose what to remove and what to cherish, writing it down is a great way to control your mind.
5- Help others:
Give up rudeness, the world is already full of it, be kind instead, that feels much better, we all want happiness but when we look for it, we're doing it in a selfish way, we want to make sure that we're happy, appreciated...but we forget that making others happy, that's true happiness, when you help others, when you're kind with people that brings much happiness. We rise by lifting others!
Life is moments, moments of happiness, of sadness, of fear, of strength,.. and our mission, it to know how to deal with each moment, first you got to know that every single moment is not going to last forever, there will be an end, which is a good and a bad thing at the same time, because happiness won't last forever, but also sadness won't! and having a happy life, isn't about not feeling sadness because without knowing the sadness, you can't feel the happiness. So enjoy your happiness, and to learn from the sadness, because these tough times will teach you lessons, and we grow up with pain.
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