4 Important Things Your Wife Needs From You
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The primary emotional need the wife wants from her husband is the continual love and the continual enveloping of that attention that the husband always makes his wife his priority. Women need to be constantly reassured that their husbands love them. That their husbands always take them as number one.
Women do not take their husbands’ love for granted as opposite to men who don’t need to be constantly reassured that their wives love them. The fact that the wife is still living with you shows you that she loves you, but it doesn’t work the other way around. A woman is always double guessing, does he still love me, does he still care about me, am I still his number one. This is why a woman has to have constant reassurance.
Another issue men need to be sensitive to and understand, women are very conscious of their looks and they’re comparing their looks with other women all the time, as opposite to the man, who doesn’t care much about his looks or compare himself to other guys. But women are always thinking, « Am I still beautiful enough for him? Does he still see me attractive? Maybe I gained a few pounds… » she’s always double guessing her looks and figure and so the husband always has to make her feel the most beautiful, the most cherished. She always wants these reassurances. How he does this? by using the following :
#1. Words, words, words.
Never underestimate the power of speech. Simply saying I love you, can go a long way. For women the word I love you never goes out of fashion, they always love to hear this phrase. But not just « I love you », praising her and what she does. Never take your wife's actions for granted. Even she was a stay at home and she’s doing all the cooking and cleaning, once in a while come and compliment her, express your appreciation for what she does for you. Such words go a long way. This way your wife will realize that you’re not taking her for granted. Also, don’t forget praising her looks especially when she dresses up or when she does something extra special for you.
#2. Don’t forget anniversaries.
Why do women want you to know their anniversaries? because it makes them feel you still love them, makes them know that you still care about them. And what greater thing to do than for the husband to tell his wife over and over again that « I love you ».
#3. Quality time.
There are differences in the language women and men use. When the wife says, «You never spend time with me » immediately the man start calculating the time he spends with her, « I sleep eight hours a day, I spend one hour preparing to work in the morning, I come home after work, that’s more than ten hours with you ! how can you say that I never have time for you ? ». for women, time means attention, undivided quality attention. So suppose you’re working 5 days a week, you have that Saturday night free and you want to go out with your friends and watch a cricket game… that is quality time and you have just shown your wife, that when you have quality time, you don’t want to spend it with her. This doesn’t mean that you never go out with your friends or do any of the activities you enjoy doing, but understand that when she’s asking for the time, she wants quality time.
#4. Listen to her.
When she comes to you with an issue or a problem, one of the biggest mistakes the men make is that they think that women are coming to them to solve her problem. So immediately, he’ll point out what she did wrong and what she should be doing instead.and that is not what the woman wants, she wants a loving ear, a sympathetic ear. She wants somebody to listen to her problem and be sympathetic to her, not necessarily to solve her problem.
When you give the woman what she wants, she’ll, in return, give you what you want. And so the both of you will make each other feel like number one.